While extracellular matrix (ECM) stress relaxation is increasingly appreciated to regulate stem cell fate commitment and other behaviors, much remains unknown about how cells process stress-relaxation cues in tissue-like three-dimensional (3D) geometries versus traditional 2D cell culture. Here, we develop an oligonucleotide-crosslinked hyaluronic acid-based ECM platform with tunable stress relaxation properties capable of use in either 2D or 3D. Strikingly, stress relaxation favors neural stem cell (NSC) neurogenesis in 3D but suppresses it in 2D. RNA sequencing and functional studies implicate the membrane-associated protein spectrin as a key 3D-specific transducer of stress-relaxation cues. Confining stress drives spectrins recruitment to the F-actin cytoskeleton, where it mechanically reinforces the cortex and potentiates mechanotransductive signaling. Increased spectrin expression is also accompanied by increased expression of the transcription factor EGR1, which we previously showed mediates NSC stiffness-dependent lineage commitment in 3D. Our work highlights spectrin as an important molecular sensor and transducer of 3D stress-relaxation cues.